22 May 2017

How Do We Deal with A Carpenter King ~ Raw Lumber

Greetings Dear Reader,

I once saw a desk made of “Tiger Oak”.  “Tiger oak is oak that is milled into quarters at an angle to the growth rings of the tree. This method produces boards with heavy stippling visible in the grain. Tiger oak, also called quarter sawn oak, is used for cabinets, furniture and projects for which the flecked pattern of the boards is desired.”

The desk was bare.  In the fine polished surface the tiger stripes shown beautifully in the in the natural light of the room.  The desk is the most beautiful desk I have ever seen.  I had daily access to the office in which the desk resided.  I would often sit in the afternoons watching the sun play on the surface of the wood.

I would ponder the carpenter who had the vision to see what could be in raw oak lumber with which he worked.  He saw what he could fashion out of the wood.  He knew what could become with the proper cutting down and shaping back.  He knew he could create something strong and beautiful out of dead oak. 

This is how the Carpenter King approaches us.  We are dead wood.  Left to ourselves we will rot and decay.  The Carpenter has plans for us.  He sees the beauty and potential in our raw lumber.  He knows how to craft us into something enduring and strong. 

I must deal with the Carpenter King by allowing him to fashion me according to his design.  From rough sawing to planking to fine sanding and polishing he knows what to do for me.  He knows how to shape me and cut me. He knows how to bring out the natural beauty in me.  I cannot do it for myself. 

Wishing you joy in the journey,

Aramis Thorn
Mat 13:52 So Jesus said to them, "That is why every writer who has become a disciple of Christ’s rule of the universe is like a home owner. He liberally hands out new and old things from his great treasure store.”

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21 May 2017

How Do We Deal with A Carpenter King ~ Type Amen?

Greetings Dear Reader,

Carpentry is a simple beautiful art.  My Grandfather was a hobby carpenter.  He even continued to practice the art after a table saw cut his hand almost in two.  After the injury healed he had pins in his hand.  He could create beautiful things with wood, work, and patience.

I am trying to imagine how Jesus the carpenter would deal with social media and the technology age.  There is a web site, Coffee with Jesus that addresses this occasionally.  I try to use technology and social media for good things. 

There is a trend that some of my fellow Christ followers have adopted that disturbs me.  I believe that we should live our faith outwardly.  I do not hesitate to claim Christ and try to follow him.  I do not think that the trend to post something then ask for proof of agreement is wise.

It is not saying amen to a post or sharing it that spreads the Gospel.  In fact I think it makes us look foolish to those who do not understand the love and compassion of Christ.  I know that these posts are meant to be a good thing.  Some, however, go too far.

One cannot gain a blessing, money, or healing by participating in this modern form of chain letters.  In fact it wastes resources and time.  Every piece of data sent costs something.  Every post has a price.  When we forget that the Gospel like carpentry is a patient artful process we lose its beauty and grace.  The Gospel is the process of turning raw material into lovely useful things.  What better leader to follow than a Carpenter King?

Wishing you joy in the journey,

Aramis Thorn
Mat 13:52 So Jesus said to them, "That is why every writer who has become a disciple of Christ’s rule of the universe is like a home owner. He liberally hands out new and old things from his great treasure store.”

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20 May 2017

How Do We Deal with A Carpenter King ~ Opening Thoughts

Greetings Dear Reader,

The life of Christ is filled with paradoxes.  An honest look at the man Jesus; his human side often helps me understand how I am to behave and be as I follow him.  It is in Christ that we find the ultimate example of what it means to be human.

We were not meant to have flaws and failures.  We are designed to be good, noble, and loving.  Perhaps a clear examination of the human side of our divine Brother can help.  Perhaps a better understanding of how to be a human and do what is right can make the journey easier.

Really nothing makes it easier but some things make it bearable.  There is something in carpentry that gives me insight into who Jesus is.  It gives me a better understanding of how to follow him. 

Please, Dear Reader, walk with me through some saw dust and shavings.  Reason with me as we have a look at the way we must deal with a Carpenter King.  As always I value your thoughts.

Wishing you joy in the journey,

Aramis Thorn
Mat 13:52 So Jesus said to them, "That is why every writer who has become a disciple of Christ’s rule of the universe is like a home owner. He liberally hands out new and old things from his great treasure store.”

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19 May 2017

A Pause to Pray

Greetings Dear Reader,

I have a friend or two in real need.  Instead of writing this morning I spent the time in prayer for these people.   I realize that all of you do not pray and I neither expect nor require it.  I do pray for you Dear Reader.

It is not proper for me to go into the details of the friends that have needs.  The Father does not need that to know what to do.  Rather prayer is an act of obedience and faith.  I know that my friends and family for whom I pray will benefit because the Father knows his plans no matter where we are in the mix.

If you wish to pray for those things on my mind it is simple.  There are people that matter to me that are injured, ill, hurting, healing, have lost faith, have found faith, are seeking guidance, are taking risks, and so many other very specific things.  I know new parents and empty nesters who have asked me to pray.  I have friends who are seeking work and ready to retire. 

I could go on and on but you get the point.  This is the first morning I have set aside my writing time to only pray in quite a while.  Three of the people I prayed for this morning reached out to me today updating me on how they are.  That is such a reward.  Tomorrow I will continue examining the journey and my place in it.  Hugs and prayers for you Dear Reader.

Wishing you joy in the journey,

Aramis Thorn
Mat 13:52 So Jesus said to them, "That is why every writer who has become a disciple of Christ’s rule of the universe is like a home owner. He liberally hands out new and old things from his great treasure store.”
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18 May 2017

Four Words ~ Closing Thoughts

Greetings Dear Reader,

As a species we are very good at denying the inevitable.  We do things that harm us and deny that they will.  We fail to learn from history that we create.  We are willful to the end. 

The ultimate truth is that the Father’s will is going to be accomplished.  We look for signs and certainty instead of following in faith.  We say we believe or we refuse to believe and try to make our own path.  We have a trailblazer who knows the way.  Instead of following in faith we willfully demand that the Father conform to our image of him.

In faith I must say, “They will be done.”  With all my heart I must follow the Son who will lead me to the Father.  In love they both promise that they will get things back to good again.  By grace and mercy they will show me the way. 

It is not about my will.  It is about the Father’s will.  This heart and attitude is also following Christ.  It is what he chose in the garden.  It is what I must choose every moment if necessary.  Father, not my will but yours.

Wishing you joy in the journey,

Aramis Thorn
Mat 13:52 So Jesus said to them, "That is why every writer who has become a disciple of Christ’s rule of the universe is like a home owner. He liberally hands out new and old things from his great treasure store.”

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17 May 2017

Four Words ~ Faith

Greetings Dear Reader,

The ultimate task of asking for the Father’s will to be done is to have faith.  Faith, belief, and trust are required in all our transactions with the Father.  He wants us to have the faith that small children have in their Fathers.

It is in this faith that we find our way.  The just live by faith.  Without faith it is impossible to please the Father.  We are redeemed by grace through faith.  If we just focused on the ways in which the Word tells us to have faith we could muster an excellent understating of why wanting the Father’s will to be done is logical and wise.

It is in belief that we have the courage to want his will over the things that seem wise or obvious to us.  When we believe we do.  My Grandfather always said, “You do what you believe.  Everything else is just religious talk.”  If I am not kind to others then I dare not speak of the kindness of Christ.  If I am not willing to love others then I must not tell them that God loves them.  The fact is that I must do what I believe of my belief is dead and not focused on the living God.

It is in trusting him that we find the freedom to forgive and love others without reservation.  It is in trust that we can say that we wish the Father’s will to be done here as it is above.  I must desire for the two worlds, ours and the Father’s kingdom to come to be one.  I must long for this.  It is easy because I do.  I want this so much.

I become weary of the struggle with sin.  I see the unkindness in the world and it hurts me.  I see my own failures and long to be free of the things that drive me to fail.  I want every thought to be loving and kind.  I want to never be selfish or self-serving. 

I have faith that the Father wants this.  I believe that he is working to get things back to good.  I trust that his will will be done.  Without this I have no hope.

Wishing you joy in the journey,

Aramis Thorn
Mat 13:52 So Jesus said to them, "That is why every writer who has become a disciple of Christ’s rule of the universe is like a home owner. He liberally hands out new and old things from his great treasure store.”

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16 May 2017

Four Words ~ Just

Greetings Dear Reader,

When I question the will of the Father I not only question his goodness.  I question his justice.  When I do this I move away from the safety that God is always just. 

We often cry of injustice when we do not like the circumstances or understand all of the situation.  There are injustices created by man.  We wrong each other constantly for selfish reasons.  We create injustice and then assign it to God.

It is in the Father’s justice that we can find the courage to say “Thy will be done” when we do not understand the circumstances.  Again, like the Father’s goodness his justice is based on his understanding of the universe and not ours.

I can only see what I see.  He sees everything.  He knows what comes next and works out final justice for us all.  We cannot define justice as we wish it expect God to comply to our definition of it.  We try to remake the Father’s justice in our image. 

I know that the way out is through.  I know that the justice that the world needs is found in doing the will of the Father.  Even when he allows what is unjust to us he knows how he will get all things back to good.  He asks me to trust him and follow.  That is the just thing for me to do.

Wishing you joy in the journey,

Aramis Thorn
Mat 13:52 So Jesus said to them, "That is why every writer who has become a disciple of Christ’s rule of the universe is like a home owner. He liberally hands out new and old things from his great treasure store.”

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15 May 2017

Second Thoughts – A Bold Adventure

Greetings Dear Reader,

Sometimes I will end the day with thoughts that are important to get out.  Usually I just write them and put them in my journal folder.  I have chosen that on occasion I will share them with you Dear Reader.

I always try to reflect on good things in my life on Mother’s Day that are there because of my mother.  Of significance is a gamble she took when I was six that has influenced my entire life.  It seemed a simple thing for a long time.  Then as I grew older and understood my Mother’s preferences in life, it was clear that she was trying to invest in me.

It was September of 1966.  We were living in Atlanta and barely getting by.  We had a twelve in black and white TV with foil on the antenna.  I was the remote control.  I had been told to go to bed an hour early and reluctantly obeyed.

Later, just before ten in the night I was awakened by my mom.  The house of warm popcorn and I was led to the living room.  Mom told me to have a seat on the scratchy orange herculon couch.  What unfolded was the first episode of a new TV series, Star Trek.  The episode was The Man Trap.

We ate popcorn.  We talked about what was happening on the show.  She made sure it was not scaring me.  As the final series credits rolled she explained that we would do this each week if I went to be early without complaint. 

That experiment in investing in a boy yielded a lifelong love of Star Trek, adventure, and the possible.  As a fatherless boy Captain Kirk was second only to my Grandfather in my admiration of male figures.  The series ended just about same time that my Grandfather reached the clearing at the end of the path. 

Great darkness followed but Star Trek reruns were one of the things that sustained me through that darkness until I discovered the hope that is in Christ.  The two things, Star Trek and the Great Adventure are so intertwined for me that I often ask the Father for a star ship to explore his undiscovered country.  Thanks mom. 

Wishing you joy in the journey,

Aramis Thorn
Mat 13:52 So Jesus said to them, "That is why every writer who has become a disciple of Christ’s rule of the universe is like a home owner. He liberally hands out new and old things from his great treasure store.”

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Four Words ~ Good

Greetings Dear Reader,

Hillary Scott’s song Thy Will Be Done  juxtaposes the pain of a situation with the need to understand that the Father’s will must be done even when we do not understand.  When understanding fails we must stand on faith.  We must want the Father’s will no matter how difficult it is to get there.

We must recognize that God is good even when we do not feel good.  The situation must not determine what we think of the Father.  As a father who has failed at times I understand how it feels to be judged wanting by your children.  This can only be an inkling of what the Father must feel when his every move is to show us his love for us.  He has never failed us and yet we fail to trust him and follow his Son.

When I doubt the Father’s goodness I fight against what he allows.  I run in directions that are not part of the journey home.  I hinder my progress in getting back to good.  I make the journey more difficult than it must be for me.  God is good.  He is good indeed.

I may never understand how my shattered heart is a part of the plan.  I need to cling to the reality that the Father is good and that it is that goodness that I can count on.  I do not always need to understand to honestly say “Thy will be done.”

Wishing you joy in the journey,

Aramis Thorn
Mat 13:52 So Jesus said to them, "That is why every writer who has become a disciple of Christ’s rule of the universe is like a home owner. He liberally hands out new and old things from his great treasure store.”

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14 May 2017

Four Words ~ Collaboration

Greetings Dear Reader,

When we form sentences we are making words collaborate to express a thought.  It is not just the words that communicate the thought.  There is emotion of expression.  There inflection and context. 

These four words directed at the Father express the desire for his will to be done.  The expression can be situational or overreaching.  One can mean that they wish the will of the Father right now or that they want it in all things. 

There is also the timbre and attitude of the expression.  One can be committed and certain.  One can be resigned.  One can be fatalistic.  We express all things with an emotion or attitude.  When we tell the Father “they will be done,” we can be doing so in faith, fear, or fatigue.  We can be expressing that we want it to be so or that it will be so whether we wish it or not. 

In truth expressing this is simply acknowledging what will be in the future, in the now.  Sometimes for me it is an expression of all that I have left.  When the pain is at its highest or the sorrow at it deepest, I express this with my whole heart.  It is in the Father’s will that all is safe and right.

I must increasingly become a man who understands that if the Father allows it to happen then it is part of the overreaching plan to bring all things back to good.  It may not be what I want or what seems logical to me.  That does not mean that the Father does not know what he is doing.

Thy Will Be Done – Hillary Scott

I’m so confused
I know I heard you loud and clear
So, I followed through
Somehow I ended up here
I don’t wanna think
I may never understand
That my broken heart is a part of your plan
When I try to pray
All I’ve got is hurt and these four words

Thy will be done
Thy will be done
Thy will be done

I know you’re good
But this don’t feel good right now
And I know you think
Of things I could never think about
It’s hard to count it all joy
Distracted by the noise
Just trying to make sense
Of all your promises
Sometimes I gotta stop
Remember that you’re God
And I am not
So

Thy will be done
Thy will be done
Thy will be done
Like a child on my knees all that comes to me is
Thy will be done
Thy will be done
Thy will

I know you see me
I know you hear me, Lord
Your plans are for me
Goodness you have in store
I know you hear me
I know you see me, Lord
Your plans are for me
Good news you have in store

So, thy will be done
Thy will be done
Thy will be done
Like a child on my knees all that comes to me is
Thy will be done
Thy will be done
Thy will be done
I know you see me
I know you hear me, Lord

Wishing you joy in the journey,

Aramis Thorn
Mat 13:52 So Jesus said to them, "That is why every writer who has become a disciple of Christ’s rule of the universe is like a home owner. He liberally hands out new and old things from his great treasure store.”

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13 May 2017

Four Words ~ Done

Greetings Dear Reader,

Once again we find the power of a small word.  Done is complete, finished, ready, or accomplished.  When something is done it is an action that is completed.  It is a task that is accomplished. 

We use this word in negative ways.  When we are at the end of our patience we will tell people we are done.  This is not accomplishment as much as it is resignation.  It is one of the things we do.  We think we have done something when we have quit.

The idea for me is to complete what must be done.  I must follow.  I must be faithful.  I must love and hope and endure.  I must learn.  Most importantly I must not be done until the Father says that I am done.  I must keep moving and following until the journey is done.

Wishing you joy in the journey,

Aramis Thorn
Mat 13:52 So Jesus said to them, "That is why every writer who has become a disciple of Christ’s rule of the universe is like a home owner. He liberally hands out new and old things from his great treasure store.”

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12 May 2017

Four Words ~ Be

Greetings Dear Reader,

This itty-bitty word has so much power.  Coupled with the preposition “to” it becomes the short definition of our existence.  Anyone who knows a little Shakespeare knows the phrase “to be or not to be” even if they do not know the context or significance.  “Be” is the verb that defines that we are.


To be or not to be...
We fill our lives with questions about being.  “What are you going to be when you grow up?”  I remember first hearing this question when I was four.  I wanted to be my Grandfather.  We struggle all our lives with what we will or are becoming.   We become what we feel, think, and do.

When I came to faith I was on the edge of ceasing to be.  I was ready to end my life because the pain and anger had become unbearable.  A man took the time to show me that I could be.  He showed me that the pain might no end but there was a path to follow away from the anger and hurt. 

The Father longs for us to be his.  He wants us to follow his Son.  He wishes for us to become like him.  It is in him that I live and move and have my BEING.  I must learn to be still.  I must learn to be in his presence constantly.  I must be journeying ever closer.

The very name of the Father, “I AM” is a form of “be”.   In all that there is in life, at the core is the realization that the Father is.

Wishing you joy in the journey,

Aramis Thorn
Mat 13:52 So Jesus said to them, "That is why every writer who has become a disciple of Christ’s rule of the universe is like a home owner. He liberally hands out new and old things from his great treasure store.”

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11 May 2017

Four Words ~ Will

Greetings Dear Reader,

Will is an interesting thing.  We see it as a power.  We use it to accomplish what to our reason seems impossible.  I wonder if we truly ponder how powerful will is.  We have done great things by force of will.  We have done terrible things as well.

We choose what we WILL do and what we will not.  We have the freedom to choose.  It may be that the most obvious act of grace is that we are allowed to choose.  God could force us to see him as he is.  He could remove the will he created in us.  He could demand that we do all that he wills.

That is not how the Father treats us.  He wants our love based on choice.  He wants us to see his love for us and choose him.  We use our will to reject him.  We judge him imperfect based on our world view and will him away from us.  

We live in a world where it can be difficult to work the will of the Father even when we want to do so.  I need to become someone who constantly realigns my will with the Father’s no matter how difficult it is.  At times I do not want it.  At times I feel I cannot align my will with his.

Fortunately he works in us to reform our will.  He gives us grace and mercy to get to the right place.  He gives us freedom from the things that hold us away from him.  He promises to give us the will not just the ability to do his will.  He works in me to both will and to do his good will.

Wishing you joy in the journey,

Aramis Thorn
Mat 13:52 So Jesus said to them, "That is why every writer who has become a disciple of Christ’s rule of the universe is like a home owner. He liberally hands out new and old things from his great treasure store.”

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10 May 2017

Four Words ~ Thy

Greetings Dear Reader,

Pronouns have always been peculiar to me.  They ebb and flow in their use and meaning.  They are misused and even politicized.  Pronouns change form over time as well. 

Pronouns derive their meaning from context.  It is one of the reasons they are so useful.  Using then properly is important because the wrong pronoun can point us in the wrong direction.  A plural pronoun used where there is a singular subject can be confusing.  It is why using “their” to avoid gender specificity is inaccurate.

This tiny word “thy” is an archaic pronoun that means “your”.  In context of the phrase we are building it refers to the Father.  It points to the God of the Universe with three tiny letters.  It signifies that the Father is the subject of what we are about to say.

At some level the Father should always be the subject of our purpose.  He calls us home, reminding us that he is our Home.  He asks that we follow his Son.  He asks that we put love above all that we do.

It is with this word that we approach the Father and call to him.  I must never let this tiny possessive pronoun cloud the understanding of the one I approach.  I must always realize who it is I am addressing.

Wishing you joy in the journey,

Aramis Thorn
Mat 13:52 So Jesus said to them, "That is why every writer who has become a disciple of Christ’s rule of the universe is like a home owner. He liberally hands out new and old things from his great treasure store.”

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09 May 2017

Four Words ~ Opening Thoughts

Greetings Dear Reader,

It occurs to me often that we make things far too complex.  We layer pretense end complexity onto the basic.  We systematize and codify We make rules where we are supposed to follow our hearts.  We disavow the basic rules we are given and put rules in place that are untenable.

Too often I build pretense and complexity into the things that are simple.  Even more foolishly I allow the past to complicate the future.  I allow the things I cannot control to keep me from being who I must be in the moment.  At times I put my expectations at the forefront.  I put what I think I need in the moment ahead of following Christ.

All of this can be mitigated by four simple words.  I can focus, as Christ did on the response that he gave and instructed us to give.  I can follow him in his example even though it is not a popular thing to do.  At times I must think this through.

I must remind my heart of the simplicity of the Gospel.  I must recall that what I have is to be entrusted to his will and guidance.  I must follow.  That means that I submit to where I am led.  I do not follow blindly so I must think it through.

You are welcome to walk with me Dear Reader.  Your company is always a comfort in the journey. Please see the warning sign.  Sometimes the path reveals truths we do not like.

Wishing you joy in the journey,

Aramis Thorn
Mat 13:52 So Jesus said to them, "That is why every writer who has become a disciple of Christ’s rule of the universe is like a home owner. He liberally hands out new and old things from his great treasure store.”

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08 May 2017

Courage in the Moment

Greetings Dear Reader,

It is ever increasing that I encounter people who openly speak against Christians.  It runs a gamut from dismissive rejection to virulent hatred.  People openly generalize about those who follow Christ in a way that is rejected as generalization for other groups of people.

People call us ignorant, racist, and hateful.  They use the worst examples of poor Christ followers to paint us all.  The poor example are there.  We must answer for that.  I say also that were I to apply the same paint to any other sect I would be an ignorant hateful racist.  So in a world where the tide is against those who follow Christ what am I to do?

I am required to have courage.  I am required to love no matter what.  I am expected to rise above whatever is said about Christ followers and live an example that proves it wrong. 

Sometimes courage is easier than others.  Sometimes the situation or the source of the hatred makes being courageous difficult.  At times the courageous thing to do is be silent.  I must not do harm to be right.  I must not argue or disrespect others to be right.  I must through love and example communicate the Gospel.

I must learn when to speak and when to be silent.  I must renew that learning daily.  I must follow in faith that I was warned. I was warned that following Christ is not safe.  It does not promise that I will be loved for it. 

There are days when I do not understand why the Father does not intervene.  I must remember that it is up to him.  I must remember that I do not know all that he does.  Faith is the thing that sustains courage.  Faith in the moment yields courage for the moment.  That’s the way that it works.  It’s the way it must be.

Wishing you joy in the journey,

Aramis Thorn
Mat 13:52 So Jesus said to them, "That is why every writer who has become a disciple of Christ’s rule of the universe is like a home owner. He liberally hands out new and old things from his great treasure store.”

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07 May 2017

Guardians of the Galaxy ~ NO SPOILERS

Greetings Dear Reader,

The summer movie season begins with Marvel offering chapter two of Guardians of the Galaxy.  As with most sequels to super hero movies we are treated to the funny bits we wanted from the first movie.  The expected Stan Lee cameo is awesome.  I will not say much more so as not to spoil it for anyone.

I found that the impact of the movie very deep hot on the heels of writing about Father Wounds.  It is the premise of the tale that Peter Quill (Star-Lord) is searching for his father.  I cannot detail the impact without revealing too much of the plot.  The story is masterfully told.  The production is amazing.

What stays with me is the search for a father.  At the core of things, we all search for that figure that can be an example, mentor, and guide.  Fathers are supposed to be all of these things.  As I sit here in the dark pondering the film and what it has taught me it is all very simple.

I follow a Son who never disappointed his father.  I search for a Father who is God and would claim me as a son.  The Son will lead me to the Father and all will be good again.  I want to love the Father.  I want to be in harmony with him.  Everything else is pretense.

Wishing you joy in the journey,

Aramis Thorn
Mat 13:52 So Jesus said to them, "That is why every writer who has become a disciple of Christ’s rule of the universe is like a home owner. He liberally hands out new and old things from his great treasure store.”

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06 May 2017

Father Hearts and Father Wounds ~ Closing

Greetings Dear Reader,

Our hearts are intended to be tender.  The Father makes love the prime mover in all things.  This does not mean it supersedes all of his other attributes like righteousness, holiness, and justice.  We are intended to have a heart like the Father.

The world needs the love a of the Father so desperately.  We are commanded to love him and in turn love others.  Fathers are required to love their children.  When they fail to do so they can create great wounds.  These wounds can block the ability of children to see God the Father clearly.

It is not that the wounds cannot be healed.  It is that it takes time and faith.  It takes perseverance in seeking the Father with all the heart we have left.  It is replacing a heart of stone with one of flesh.  God promises to do this for us but he will not force it upon us.  He will if we will.

I must daily; in every moment seek the Father’s heart.  In turn he will give me a tender heart towards those around me.  I must daily be willing.  I must make every moment one where I allow my wounds to heal and seek to help heal the wounds of others.  If we committed our energy to this we would not have time to create new wounds. 

It is too easy to allow my heart to harden.  It is tempting because it feels safe.  It is not ever safe to have a hard heart.  I may have to forgive.  I may have to endure.  The Father promises to sustain me every step of the journey home. 

Wishing you joy in the journey,

Aramis Thorn
Mat 13:52 So Jesus said to them, "That is why every writer who has become a disciple of Christ’s rule of the universe is like a home owner. He liberally hands out new and old things from his great treasure store.”

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05 May 2017

Father Hearts and Father Wounds ~ Losing Too Soon

Greetings Dear Reader,

 We suffer loss.  We take damage.  We have scars.  “For all who would seek to love, a thorn is all the world has to give.”  I do not believe this because I am cynical or jaded.  I believe it because I see it. 

The difficulty is that if we have a heart made by the Father then we willingly take the damage, the pain, and the scars.  The Son offers both a home and a cross.  We cannot take the crown without first carrying the cross.  Following Christ means first taking up a cross.

The pain we suffer tries to wear us down.  The hurt we inflict on ourselves or that which is inflicted on us rips at the heart.  Some days we cannot even crawl from the hurt but we are still obligated to follow.  We are still obligated to bear our cross.  We are still obligated to rise above the pain and sorrow.

The great difficulty is that we lose heart too soon.  We forget that any pain or sorrow has a healing ahead of it.  We lose faith.  We lose heart.  We stop following and, therefore, never walk out of the pain.  We stay in the valley of shadows and stop following the light away from the hurt.

To love is to risk damage and pain.  To love is to put our hearts on the line for the sake of others.  The moment we call it back and stop loving unconditionally we gather the hurt into ourselves.  We should not be surprised that when we lose heart we find pain.

Since the core of following Christ is to love then the heart must never be lost.   We must hold on and be held no matter how broken and pained we become.  We must hope.  We must have faith.  If we do not then we are losing it too soon.

Wishing you joy in the journey,

Aramis Thorn
Mat 13:52 So Jesus said to them, "That is why every writer who has become a disciple of Christ’s rule of the universe is like a home owner. He liberally hands out new and old things from his great treasure store.”

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04 May 2017

Father Hearts and Father Wounds ~ Gaining Too Late

Greetings Dear Reader,

Over the last few months I have been having regular conversations with the man whose name I carry.  In the last few years he has found faith and a heart to connect with his children and grandchildren.

At first I was hesitant.  The wounds are so deep from the failures of fathers in my past that I was wary of the probability of taking more damage.  I, however, have the obligation to love and forgive.  When I see that someone is trying to do better I must encourage them. 

The conversations have been painful at times but they have been also very good.  I see a tenderness there that I never saw.  I see an honesty about fallenness and the struggle to follow Christ that I share.  His motivation is not guilt or shame.  In it I see love and repentance.  I see a man who wants to be good to us with what ability he has.

The lesson there is twofold for me.   The first is that I must be very sure that I am forgiving and loving to anyone who shows that they understand the depth of his or her sin.  I must look past my own pain to the fact that neither of us has failed to fail.  I must allow Christ to rule my heart so that it is always tuned to the love and fogginess of the Father.

Second, I must always be aware that it is never too late to do what is right.  It is never too late to gain a father’s heart.  Like the Tin Man the Father can create a new heart in us if we allow it.  He can teach us all to love as he does.  He can soften us and make us kind.  All he is waiting for is our admission that we need a little oil and a new heart.

My Eyes are Dry – Keith Green

My eyes are dry, my faith is old,
My heart is hard, my prayers are cold,
And I know how I ought to be,
Alive to you, and dead to me.
Oh, what can be done, for an old heart like mine,
Softer it up, with oil and wine.
The oil is You, Your Spirit of love,
Please wash me anew, in the wine of Your blood.
My eyes are dry, my faith is old,
My heart is hard, my prayers are cold,
And I know how I ought to be,
Alive to you, and dead to me.

Wishing you joy in the journey,

Aramis Thorn
Mat 13:52 So Jesus said to them, "That is why every writer who has become a disciple of Christ’s rule of the universe is like a home owner. He liberally hands out new and old things from his great treasure store.”

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03 May 2017

Father Hearts and Father Wounds ~ Walking Wounded

Greetings Dear Reader,

We are all on a journey.  Whether we accept it or not the Father calls us all home.  Some journey with the Son as a guide and some do not.  Unfortunately, some who choose to follow the Son choose to judge and reject those who do not.

We are instructed by the one we follow to love them all.  We are also told that we are to be an example that entices them to follow as well.  It is not through judgment and condemnation that we accomplish this.  It is through love and service.

Fathers are supposed to set the same example for their children.  The best fail.  Some fail worse than others.  Some choose to fail or never even try.  Our father wounds can fester and infect our ability to father our children.    

The truth is that we are all walking wounded.  Some is nature and some is nurture.  We carry the burdens fostered upon us by our parents.  Oscar Wilde wrote, “Children begin by loving their parents; as they grow older they judge them; sometimes they forgive them.”  I have had to work hard to forgive the pain set upon me by my progenitor.  When came down to it there was only one act left to show love for him and I did it.

We must not fail to forgive our fathers.  We need the grace too much to avoid giving it to others.  We need the freedom too much to carry the burden.   I must see that my fellow travelers are walking wounded and love them where they are.  I must live a life that avoids the things that caused wounds in my children. I must fail to spread the infection from the wounds inflicted by my father. 

 There is no human that does not need grace and mercy.  It is my obligation to be an example of that.  It is through the Father’s love for me that I can find the courage to love others no matter how wounded, scared, or damaged I am. 

Wishing you joy in the journey,

Aramis Thorn
Mat 13:52 So Jesus said to them, "That is why every writer who has become a disciple of Christ’s rule of the universe is like a home owner. He liberally hands out new and old things from his great treasure store.”

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02 May 2017

Father Hearts and Father Wounds ~ Father Heart Round Two

Greetings Dear Reader,

The sadness and pain of father wounds can span our entire lives.  We make poor choices and follow dark paths because of the pain.  We are wandering walking wounded.

Our lives can be so ruled by the pain and sorrow that we do not see hope or a way out.  Our image of a father is so tainted by the failure of the one who is supposed to be “our” father that we cannot see beyond that to the love offered by the Father.  In some cases even when we see it we refuse to trust that it can be real.

I feel the deep wounds of a father who did not love me and would not invest his life in mine.  The only thing that sustains me is the love of a Father God who sees every hurt and tear when I am alone and the ache rises in me.  It is the love that I want to know how to show my Children and Grandchildren.  It is in seeking to love him that I learn how to love others.

Both my nature and nurture trained me to be a hard and unloving man.  I have to lay down my hurt daily and try again.  I have to soften my heart to the love and grace of the Father.  I have to have faith.  I have to keep seeking the Father with all my heart. 

I assure you that this is not a fixer for all my pain and sorrow.  It is not the solution to all my anger and loss.  Instead it gives me the strength for the next day or maybe the next moment.  It is solace when I allow it to be. 

The longing for a life where I do not fail my Children and they see the depth of my love for them continues.  The desire to see my Children and Grandchildren walking in faith with the Father stems from that love.  Perhaps that is the deepest connection.  The Father has a heart that longs for us and he shows himself to me through the longing I feel.  It accepts me where and how I am and embraces me whenever I will let him.

Come As You Are – David Crowder

Come out of sadness from wherever you've been
Come, brokenhearted; let rescue begin
Come find your mercy, O sinner, come kneel
Earth has no sorrow that Heaven can't heal
Earth has no sorrow that Heaven can't heal

Lay down your burdens
Lay down your shame
All who are broken
Lift up your face
O wanderer, come home
You're not too far
So lay down your hurt
Lay down your heart
Come as you are

There's hope for the hopeless
For all those who've strayed
Come sit at the table
Come taste the grace
There's rest for the weary
A rest that endures
Earth has no sorrow that Heaven can't cure

Lay down your burdens
Lay down your shame
All who are broken
Lift up your face
O wanderer, come home
You're not too far
So lay down your hurt
Lay down your heart
Come as you are

Come as you are
Fall in His arms
Come as you are

There's joy for the morning
O sinner, be still
Earth has no sorrow that Heaven can't heal
Earth has no sorrow that Heaven can't heal

Lay down your burdens
Lay down your shame
All who are broken
Lift up your face
O wanderer, come home
You're not too far
So lay down your hurt
Lay down your heart
Come as you are

Wishing you joy in the journey,

Aramis Thorn
Mat 13:52 So Jesus said to them, "That is why every writer who has become a disciple of Christ’s rule of the universe is like a home owner. He liberally hands out new and old things from his great treasure store.”

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01 May 2017

Father Hearts and Father Wounds ~ Father Wounds Round Two

Greetings Dear Reader,

I have always enjoyed the idea of finding lost treasure and recovering ships claimed by the sea.  Our adventures on the sea over the centuries have cost much in mastering travel over the water.  We still put lives at great risk to do business in great waters.

One of the shows currently on is about a man searching for lost treasure ships from the sixteenth and seventeenth century.  The search for the ships is enough to capture my interest.  The undercurrent of the relationship between the searcher and his father breaks my heart.

The father treats his son with contempt and vitriol simply because the son has not lived up to the father’s expectations.  From each statement the father makes to the son it can be seen that the father is in great pain and chooses anger over love for his life.

We create wounds in our children when we choose wrong over right.  Some of them are forgiven and heal.  Some fester and do lifelong damage.  The difficulty is that when either party refuses to bend there can be no reconciliation.  There can only be healing if each accepts the humanity of the other and chooses to love at any cost.

We must not judge our children when they go in a direction that we think is wrong.  We must love them more.  We must tread that careful balance between loving the person without condition and holding onto our values.  We must own the wounds we have created in the past and seek to do right moving forward. 

Any man who ever attempted to fill the role of father when I was young held my faith in contempt.  For a time I thought that my faith was wrong and that my God did not exist.  It was the wounds form my father that caused this thinking.  It was my need for his love that drove me.  This emptiness brought me to the brink. 

I cannot undo the damage done to me or by me in this life.   Christ can and does help us find solace in following him and turning our pain into following.  He gives hope and peace if we let him. 

Wishing you joy in the journey,

Aramis Thorn
Mat 13:52 So Jesus said to them, "That is why every writer who has become a disciple of Christ’s rule of the universe is like a home owner. He liberally hands out new and old things from his great treasure store.”

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