Showing posts with label slander. Show all posts
Showing posts with label slander. Show all posts

27 January 2015

Did You Hear? – Closing Thoughts

Greetings Dear Reader,

We use so many clumsy words.  Most of what we say is really useless.  When we say things that are harmless it can still be idle chatter.  When we gossip and slander we move into the sinful and destructive.

Again the matter seems to be choosing for focus on doing good and positive things so that I am without time to do the wrong thing.  If I think the good thoughts then I will say good words.  If I ruminate over the good in others and enhance that in my interactions with them then perhaps others will see the example and follow it.

I must not harm others with my words either to their face or behind their back.  I must follow Christ in being honest in my dealings with others.  Everything about gossip and slander goes against being honest and kind.  Even if the gossip is true I am not being honest to my obligations to God.

In order to protect those thoughts I must be careful what I listen to and read.  Social media can be laden with traps of gossip about my friends.  Vigilance in my congress with others is paramount to keeping my mind clear of gossip. 

I am to dwell of things that are good and kind.  I cannot do this without avoiding gossip.  I really do strive to love everyone.  Being good to them in my thoughts and words is, therefore, paramount to this endeavor.

Thank you for walking with me whilst we discussed this Dear Reader.  Your company and insight are invaluable to me.  I hope I have not put too fine a point on anything.  I promise to only say good things about you.

Wishing you joy in the journey,

Aramis Thorn
Mat 13:52 So Jesus said to them, "That is why every writer who has become a disciple of Christ’s rule of the universe is like a home owner. He liberally hands out new and old things from his great treasure store.”

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24 January 2015

Did You Hear? - Neighbors

Greetings Dear Reader,

My Grandfather used to say during his sermons, “I am about to quit preaching and go to meddling.”  What he meant by this was always that he was to put a finer point on his message or call for real life application.  I am about to do the same so I will remind you in advance that I ponder these things so that I am a better man.

As I ponder this question I ponder my neighbors.  I think that in our culture this is not just the people that live near us but the people who sit near us at work, take our money when we shop, or serve us at our favorite restaurant.  The people with whom I have daily congress are my neighbors.

How often do we form opinions of the neighbors based on very little knowledge of the people.  I live almost in the sticks and have only two neighbors.  Both of them are good and kind people.  Even though I never say it to others I will catch my mind speculating things about them that are not at all neighborly.  This is always wrong. 

The things I think are serious or heinous in most circles.  They are, however, unloving.  They are, therefore, wrong.  It does not happen often but it is something about which I must be vigilant. 

How often do we form an opinion about one of our neighbors and turn that in to fact in our minds?  We then speculate to others about a person’s life, character, and behaviour.   We judge and condemn with no real truth in evidence.  

Jesus made it clear that we are to love our neighbor.  He did not say to love them unless they do something we do not like.  I know a man who will say the most raw and unkind things about his neighbor simply because he does not approve of the frequency or method that the man chooses to cut his lawn. 

Everything about having neighbors is an opportunity to live out the gospel.  Jesus made it clear that loving our neighbor is second only to loving God.  One cannot love God without loving one’s neighbor.  Jesus also said the every idle word we speak we will have to account for to God.  What you say about your neighbors will be asked about later.

Loving your neighbor can destroy barriers and tear down walls.  Slandering your neighbor and build barriers and create walls.  “Good fences make good neighbors,” is a lie.  As a Christ follower I am required to be a destroyer of barriers to faith. 

Mending Wall – Robert Frost

Something there is that doesn't love a wall,
That sends the frozen-ground-swell under it,
And spills the upper boulders in the sun,
And makes gaps even two can pass abreast.
The work of hunters is another thing:
I have come after them and made repair
Where they have left not one stone on a stone,
But they would have the rabbit out of hiding,
To please the yelping dogs. The gaps I mean,
No one has seen them made or heard them made,
But at spring mending-time we find them there.
I let my neighbor know beyond the hill;
And on a day we meet to walk the line
And set the wall between us once again.
We keep the wall between us as we go.
To each the boulders that have fallen to each.
And some are loaves and some so nearly balls
We have to use a spell to make them balance:
'Stay where you are until our backs are turned!'
We wear our fingers rough with handling them.
Oh, just another kind of out-door game,
One on a side. It comes to little more:
There where it is we do not need the wall:
He is all pine and I am apple orchard.
My apple trees will never get across
And eat the cones under his pines, I tell him.
He only says, 'Good fences make good neighbors'.
Spring is the mischief in me, and I wonder
If I could put a notion in his head:
'Why do they make good neighbors? Isn't it
Where there are cows?
But here there are no cows.
Before I built a wall I'd ask to know
What I was walling in or walling out,
And to whom I was like to give offence.
Something there is that doesn't love a wall,
That wants it down.' I could say 'Elves' to him,
But it's not elves exactly, and I'd rather
He said it for himself. I see him there
Bringing a stone grasped firmly by the top
In each hand, like an old-stone savage armed.
He moves in darkness as it seems to me~
Not of woods only and the shade of trees.
He will not go behind his father's saying,
And he likes having thought of it so well
He says again, "Good fences make good neighbors."

For those of you who like such things here is a song version of the poem based on the Oasis song Wonderwall.  Mending Wall – DursinMark

Wishing you joy in the journey,

Aramis Thorn
Mat 13:52 So Jesus said to them, "That is why every writer who has become a disciple of Christ’s rule of the universe is like a home owner. He liberally hands out new and old things from his great treasure store.”

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19 January 2015

Did You Hear? – First Thoughts

Greetings Dear Reader,

Whether it is social media, the entertainment portion of the local news, or friends at a gathering there is often a portion of the information that is filled with gossip.  That combined with my overdrive imagination caused me to wonder why words can do so much damage.

Even an indirect implication can cause others to think ill of someone.  We indulge in put downs, judgment, and slander.  We use words to shoot our wounded.   We feast on the woes of others.  We say things about others we would never or should never say directly to them.

Photo from Pathos.org
I do not mean to make this sound overly harsh but at the same time we are all guilty of this.  Whether it is a close friend, family member, or complete stranger what we say about others matters to us as to God.

One of the things I ponder is what it would look like if the words we said about others actually showed physically as damage or healing on their bodies.  I am sure I would have killed people.  I am also sure I would be dead. 

As I ponder this I want to make a clear distinction.  There is a difference between gossip and honestly reporting events to someone when seeking help.  There is a matter of the heart that must be considered.  If I speak to someone about a situation seeking counsel or direction that is not gossip.  If my heart is directed at restoration I will choose words that indicate that.

Whilst we walk through this together know that I am as guilty as anyone.  I work harder at it and am better than I was but I have far to travel.  Please feel free to ask questions and interact. 

Wishing you joy in the journey,

Aramis Thorn
Mat 13:52 So Jesus said to them, "That is why every writer who has become a disciple of Christ’s rule of the universe is like a home owner. He liberally hands out new and old things from his great treasure store.”

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