Showing posts with label reconciliation. Show all posts
Showing posts with label reconciliation. Show all posts

02 November 2018

Second Thoughts ~ Walls of Silence


Greetings Dear Reader,

I am continuing on the theme of gratitude and giving in my thinking about the approach of Thanksgiving.  I am learning a great deal about how it impacts others when we do not forgive and seek peace with each other.  It comes down to the question of who we deem worthy of our love.

Imagine with me how it would feel if I said to you, “I love you but you are unworthy of me showing you that love.”  I could say it like this, “Oh I love him/her, but he/she is just too much for me right now.  His/her issues are too stressful for me.”  Now imagine how that would feel if people you love at the deepest part of your capacity to love did that to you.  Imagine if the Father did that to you.

The requirement from the Father is NOT, “Do unto others as they have done to you or have done to others.”   It is, “Do unto others as you would have done to you.”  It is “Love your neighbor, love the stranger in your land, love your enemies.”  I am guilty at failing in this with a person for years.  Then those that I love followed my poor example. 

It becomes clear to me that we do not understand why we are to constantly seek to restore others in love.  It is also clear to me that we must.  The person with whom I must do this does damage to me every time we talk.  That does not mean that I can quit.  It means that I must count on the Father to work in both of us to make things right.  Others have seen the toll that it takes on me and advised me to give up on this person.  I tried.  It is a failure.

What if the Father treated us this way?  Are we not forgiven as we forgive?  We cannot simply give lip service to forgiveness.  Jesus knows what it is like to be abandoned and betrayed by those dearest to him.  Worse, he endured it without having wronged them in any way.  I cannot claim to be following Christ and treat anyone as his followers treated him. 

We live in a society where it is acceptable to abandon our children, hate our enemies, and ghost people when we are angry or hurt.  Those are all lies and I believed it in some measure for a time.  It is not up to me who is deserving of active evidence of my love.  Everyone is.  I must show my love to everyone no matter what it costs me. 

I am required to live peaceably with all humans.  I am obligated to actively pursue restoration of every broken relationship to one of love and harmony in Christ.  Since I have made this transition I have had to actively seek out some people I have wronged and seek their forgiveness.  It is hard and painful but it is also peaceful and restorative.  I am not trying to ease a conscience.  I am trying to be obedient.  There are still people I love who refuse to speak to me.  I cannot control that.  I cannot be responsible for the choice they make.  What I can do is love them fiercely and never close the door to restoration.  I can remember that we promised to never stop showing love to each other no matter the cost.  What I can do is keep hammering away at my pride and pain. 

What I must do is never see anyone as a ghost or someone to be rejected for any reason.  I have heard the silence of God and would not with that pain on anyone if I am meant to be the voice of his love in their lives.  We erect walls of silence to protect ourselves from pain when we are meant to take up the cross and let the Father comfort our pain.  Unlike his true Son, he never forsakes the adopted ones.

The Silence of God – Michael Card

It's enough to drive a man crazy; it'll break a man's faith
It's enough to make him wonder if he's ever been sane
When he's bleating for comfort from Thy staff and Thy rod
And the heaven's only answer is the silence of God

It'll shake a man's timbers when he loses his heart
When he has to remember what broke him apart
This yoke may be easy, but this burden is not
When the crying fields are frozen by the silence of God

But when you have to listen to the voices of the mob
Who are reeling in the throes of all the happiness they've got
When they tell you all their troubles have been nailed up to that cross
Then what about the times when even followers get lost?
'Cause we all get lost sometimes...

There's a statue of Jesus on a monastery knoll
In the hills of Kentucky, all quiet and cold
He's kneeling in the garden, as silent as a stone
All His friends are sleeping and He's weeping all alone

And the man of all sorrows, he never forgot
What sorrow is carried by the hearts that he bought
So, when the questions dissolve into the silence of God
The aching may remain, but the breaking does not
The aching may remain, but the breaking does not
In the holy, lonesome echo of the silence of God

Wishing you joy in the journey,

Aramis Thorn
Mat 13:52 So Jesus said to them, "That is why every writer who has become a disciple of Christ’s rule of the universe is like a home owner. He liberally hands out new and old things from his great treasure store.”
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30 September 2018

Second Thoughts ~ Respectful Remembrance


Greetings Dear Reader,

This weekend marked a very important anniversary in my life.  I do not want to allow it to pass without acknowledgment.  I also to not want to violate the wishes of others involved in it.  Forgive me for being a little cryptic.

What I will say is this:  I have only once in my life given up on a relationship and I was wrong.  There have been those who have given up on me before and since.  There is no one I have stopped loving or that I reject as someone worthy of love.  It is not my place to do so.  

We can say that we do not have the strength.  We are not supposed to have it.  We are supposed to find it in Christ.  We can say that our problems are too big but that is a lie.  Love can crush any barrier if we allow it.  We say that we will “fix it later” but we are supposed to seek peace with everyone at all times.  We take the risk of death preventing that for us.

So, on the anniversary that is dear to me I mark my love for those involved.  I stand firm in my faith that in Christ all things can be healed.  I stand firm in my promise to never again close the door on those I love.  I stand humbled by all the beauty and grace I see in others that is such a blessing to me.

You know who you are to me Dear Reader.  I love you and always shall.  The way back is always open and you are always welcome to journey with me.

Wishing you joy in the journey,

Aramis Thorn
Mat 13:52 So Jesus said to them, "That is why every writer who has become a disciple of Christ’s rule of the universe is like a home owner. He liberally hands out new and old things from his great treasure store.”
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25 December 2014

Why I love Christmas – Joy and Wonder – Closing Thoughts

Happy Christmas Dear Reader,

I hope that your Christmas Day is all that you wish it to be this year.  Thank you for journeying with me through December as I mused on why I love Christmas.  I have met a few people along the way who love it as much as I do.  I have seen a couple of people dear to me recapture a love for it.  I even been privileged to have a conversation with someone who hated Christmas and helped him separate his pain from the holiday.

I have been blessed with some new people in my life who get me when it comes to Christmas.  Val you are a blessing every day.  I pray that your Christmas is all that you wish for your family.  Joy, you truly live up to your name.  My prayers for you and Max include a wish for all that you need to feel complete in Christ.  I am thankful for the new friends and old who share the journey with me.  You have no idea how precious you are to me Dear Reader.  I truly love you.

The world is not as it should be but that does not mean it will never be so.  After all the dreams we find are the dreams we seek.  It is the hope and promise of all things made good that drives me.  It is the Christ centered joy and childlike wonder that capture me.  It is belief in something beyond what is that compels me forward.  Fully aware of the pain and sorrow of others I embrace hope that eventually we will celebrate the birth of Christ with all things returned to what they were intended to be for us.

It is in that hope that I close out my thoughts and questions on why I love Christmas.  It is Jesus that is at the core of this love and my hope in him.  It may not seem practical to have faith.  It may seem puerile and childlike.  That is, however, how Christ asks us to come to him; in childlike faith.  So I will keep Christmas in my heart. I will live it in the past, the present, and the future.  I will not forget the lessons it teaches.  “If we pretend long enough, never giving up, it just might be who we are.”  Happy Birthday Jesus, thank you for coming to be God with us.    

This Christmas Day – Trans-Siberian Orchestra

So, tell me Christmas
Are we wise
To believe in things we never see
Are prayers just wishes in disguise
And are these wishes being granted me
For now I see
The answering
To every prayer I've prayed

She's coming home this
Christmas Day

So tell me Christmas
Are we kind
More this day than any other day
Or is it only in our mind
And must it leave when you have gone away
It's different now
It's changed somehow
And now you're here to stay

She's coming home this
Christmas Day

All at once the world
It doesn't seem the same
And in a single night
You know it all has changed
And everything is now as it should be

I have the ornament
I have the perfect tree
I have a string of lights
I have a chance to see
Everything that my heart thought could be

For of all the dreams
You were the first I knew
And every other one
Was a charade of you
You stayed close when I was far away

In the darkest night
You always were the star
You always took us in
No matter who we are
And so she's coming home this
Christmas Day

Merry Christmas
Merry, merry Christmas
Merry Christmas
Merry, merry Christmas
Merry Christmas
Merry, merry Christmas
Night

She's coming home
She's coming home
She's coming home
This Christmas Day

She's coming home this
Christmas Day...

Wishing you joy in the journey,

Aramis Thorn
Mat 13:52 So Jesus said to them, "That is why every writer who has become a disciple of Christ’s rule of the universe is like a home owner. He liberally hands out new and old things from his great treasure store." 

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