Greetings Dear Reader,
Last night I saw something so painful. I was at a baseball game with my Son
Bezel. A child about the age of four or
five was walking up the metal stairs and slipped. His eye socket hit directly on the next step. He was stunned but also obviously in great
pain. One of the stadium personnel was
there and immediately helped the child.
The boy will have a shiner but will be OK.
What amazed me was his reaction. He did not wail, cry out, or in any way let
on that he was hurt save to wince and hold hand up to his face. We could tell he was in pain but he
controlled his response. How many of us
would do the same?
Yesterday I thought through controlling when we feel. Today I am pondering how we manufacture some feelings. In the case of this boy no one would have
been surprised at wailing and tears. I
am more surprised that there were not.
Some feelings like the response to pain are visceral and
come from deep within us. They are
necessary for survival. Others like
offense and anger are a result of how we think about what happens around
us. I used to have anger as my primary
response to almost anything I did not like.
I leaned just how destructive this is.
I have spent years training my mind and heart to respond
differently. That happens by capturing
our thoughts. If I think about how I
feel before I express how I feel I may be able to feel more honestly.
If I do wrong and there are consequences I have no right to
be angry about that. If I take offense
at something out of pride or arrogance then I have manufactured a feeling that
is unhealthy. It is easy to feel the
feeling without examining its source.
When I feel anger or offense welling up I am obligated to ask if the
feeling is justified.
Yes you feel how you feel but sometimes that is based on
what I am thinking. We live in a culture
where we are training ourselves to be offended.
We set up rules that establish if, then scenarios for offense and anger. Culture should not dictate how one
feels. Honesty and love must dictate how
I feel.
If I discipline my mind to think well then I can master the
manufacture of feeling based on poor thinking.
If I practice love and humility I will not be easily offended. If I follow the command to love others I will
not become angry as easily. How we feel
must be honest but it must also be based on honest thinking. If I lose that then my feelings will be
predisposed to self-centered thinking. This
is harmful and wrong. “To think well is
to serve God in the interior court.” – Thomas Traherne
Wishing you joy in the journey,
Aramis Thorn
Mat 13:52 So Jesus said to them, "That is why every writer
who has become a disciple of Christ’s rule of the universe is like a home
owner. He liberally hands out new and old things from his great treasure
store.”
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