Greetings Dear Reader,
People will come into our lives or may even be a part of the
reason we are alive who are toxic. Their
lives are so centered on self and strife that they are passively or worse actively
dangerous to others. The danger may be
emotional, physical, or both. A balance
we must find is in forgiving these individuals and protecting ourselves from
harm.
I have a person like this in my life. I genuinely love this person. I would like it if we could be closer. There are many great qualities about this
human. This person is also extremely narcissistic
and manipulative. This individual has
been this way for years and refuses to see it or address it. The problems are misunderstandings, someone
else’s fault, or allowable in this particular case.
I have truly attempted to work things out with this
person. I have seen the places in my
life that needed improvement relative to these areas and work to change. This person, however, has been shown how the
actions taken damage others and refuses to do differently.
It is a tough tightrope to walk between forgiveness and
choosing to distance oneself from another human. I have had to make this choice for my own safety
and to prevent furthering this individual’s damage. This person thinks that I hate him/her. That is not the case. I love him/her. I also have seen how damaging proximity is
for me and others.
The choice of social distance is the only thing that seems
to work to protect me. It saddens
me. It saddens me more that this person is
cut off from good things due to a refusal to see the depth of his/her
difficulties. How then do I know that I
have forgiven?
I know because it is not anger or bitterness that is in
me. It is compassion and a refusal to
enable. It is love and prayer for this
person to see the truth before it is too late.
It is a willingness to try again if change is seen. It is my commitment to forgive every day if
necessary.
I do not want to stop without saying that there was a time
in my life where I was like this as well.
A combination of nature and nurture taught me to be this way. My children and my counselor helped me see
the path I was walking. Through the
grace of God, I work daily to no longer be self-serving. This too is why I know that I have forginess
and love for others.
Wishing you joy in the journey,
Aramis Thorn
Mat 13:52 So Jesus said to them, "That is why every writer
who has become a disciple of Christ’s rule of the universe is like a home
owner. He liberally hands out new and old things from his great treasure
store.”
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