Greetings Dear Reader,
There is someone I love who has a problem for every solution. The conversations with this individual
usually go like this:
The person offers a statement of a problem in the form of a
complaint.
Someone offers a very reasonable, practical, and applicable
solution.
The person lists all the reasons why that solution will not
work and goes on to complain about the problems with all the solutions.
This person’s hunger is to complain about things and not to
find solutions to the problem. The feasting
on the complaints is the way in which this individual engages with the
world. Spending time with this person is
to hear the problem present in every situation whether solicited or not.
There are two distinct challenges with this that I must recognize
so that I continue to feed the hunger that is healthy. The first is that I should understand that I
do this at times. When I am angry or
frustrated over something, I can become unreasonable and fail to see the value
of solutions offered by others. I have
to be humble to the reality that when I am irritated, I have to guard my mouth
and thoughts so that I do not hurt those who wish to help me.
The second thing that I must guard against is feeding my
hunger to resent people whose life patterns are to be this way. If I fail to dine on forgiveness, forbearance,
and love, I will instead feast on judgment and dismissal. There is no satisfaction in the latter and my
appetite for this will increase with every indulgence. In the same way, if I develop my hunger for
grace and mercy, I will feel satisfied in the right way when I show it without
pride.
We all know someone who feasts on complaints, Dear
Reader. What I have to do is develop a habit
of feeding them love and kindness, empathizing where I can, and avoiding the
anger but not the person. We are able to
have peace in every situation if we refuse to dine on the offenses offered by
the inconsolable.
It is in knowing what is happening and choosing to rise above
it that I can find the path to interacting with that person in love. I will be healthier through refusing to be
offended by another person’s choices.
Perhaps, I can even lighten the load for them by listening without
losing my perspective and peace. Shall
we try it together, Dear Reader?
Wishing you joy in the journey,
Aramis Thorn
Mat 13:52 So Jesus said to them, "That is why every
writer who has become a disciple of Christ’s rule of the universe is like a
homeowner. He liberally hands out new and old things from his great treasure
store.”
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