Greetings Dear Reader,
“Pure” is another word for which we may not have a clear definition
without purposely pondering it. It may
be because there are few things in our society that are pure. Let us then ponder pure:
without any extraneous
and unnecessary elements. - "the romantic notion of pure art devoid of
social responsibility"
free of any
contamination. - "the pure, clear waters of Montana"
synonyms: clean,
clear, fresh, crisp, refreshing, sparkling, unpolluted, untainted,
unadulterated, uncontaminated
Again, we have to put into context what we are to consider
when thinking of purity. It is not
putting things into a moral framework that we impose on others. It is not demanding that someone live up to standards
that we create for others so that we can feel that they are doing what is
right. It is thinking without
adulteration about that which is true, noble, and right.
As we wade through this progression, we see that if love is
the foundation of truth, nobility, and right then it must also be given and
experienced with purity. Pure love means
that we love in the moment unconditionally and without expectation.
In a way that is neither wrong nor impure, my friend Trip
jokes about responses to the declaration of love. He will, in a gruff voice say, “Hey man, I
said ‘I love you!’” The first time he
told me about this my immediate thought and response was, “But you said it with
an expectation.”
I want to stress that this was all lighthearted. Still, we do tell others that we love them
with the expectation that they say it back.
That is not pure love. It is love
wrapped in a desire to be reassured of their love for us. That coin has two sides.
We also withhold the response at times when we are angry or
worried that we risk too much in expressing our love for someone. I am not talking romance here at all. There are people in my life that I love to
the depth of my soul. Some of them only respond
to this declaration when they are not angry or fearful. Worse, they will express “I love you” with
disdain or a timbre of exasperation.
Purity in love must take on the form of loving someone in the
moment without anger from the past or expectations of the future. It is seeing another individual as worth or
your very best in every moment. It is
giving your best, your most pure love to people no matter who they are or what
they have done. It is expressing love to
them in words and actions without expecting ANYTHING in return.
Do we think of how to love others with purity? It is not easy. There must be tolerance, acceptance, and
selflessness. There must be the idea
that I am going to love you in word and deed no matter how you treat me, no
matter what you do, and no matter how you respond to that love. It may even be that I have to forgive you as you
are reviling me, screaming at me, or even rejecting me. If I am going to love you purely Dear Reader,
then none of that can matter.
It is never that doing wrong and not right is
acceptable. It is not that you can shirk
nobility and truth. It is that even if
you do, I am going to love you as deeply and completely as I am able without
any expectation of acceptance, compliance, or reciprocation. I love you, Dear Reader, for you and never for
what you have done or what you are expected to do.
Wishing you joy in the journey,
Aramis Thorn
Mat 13:52 So Jesus said to them, "That is why every
writer who has become a disciple of Christ’s rule of the universe is like a
homeowner. He liberally hands out new and old things from his great treasure
store.”
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